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LEARNING WHEN TO ASK FOR HELP
I have been a full time caregiver for my elderly parents for about two and a half years. When my mother lost her mobility skills and my father suffered a severe stroke, they were no longer able to properly provide for themselves in their own home.
There was discussion about placing them both in a long-term care home to meet their day-to-day needs, but for two of them, this just wasn’t financially feasible for anyone in the family. With no other choice, we came to the decision that I would quit my job and act as their caregiver on a full time basis, which would also allow them to remain living in their own home.
I had always balanced my work life with caring for a household of four children, and thought that the transition to caregiver would be seamless since I no longer had work to compete with, and half my children had moved out of the house, while the others were self sufficient in their teenage years.
So I was surprised when the stress began taking its toll on me both physically and emotionally. Initially it began with the development of insomnia, and then the migraines started to develop, followed by the regular stomach cramps. I didn’t think to see my doctor at this point; in fact, I just chalked it up to aging.
However, things started to get out of hand when I began to notice my hair starting to thin, and my sex drive greatly declined much to my husband’s dismay. My family also began having to walk on egg shells around me, because of my regular, unpredictable mood swings, constant need to argue and criticize and general irritability.
Finally, it took my husband and children sitting me down and letting me know they didn’t like the changes they were seeing in me. So I made an appointment with my physician, and his initial recommendation was simple; I needed to take some time for myself and stop focusing so much on the needs of everyone else.
He also recommended Home Instead Senior Care Houston, if I needed a professional caregiver to come in and help me with my parents and advised that I attend a community support group to talk to others with similar stresses. I’ve learned now how important it is that I do things just for me, that I don’t need to be everything for everyone all the time. My health has improved, and now I remember how to have fun again.
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